We take care of a lot of things every day, right?
We get ourselves, and maybe our loved ones, to work each morning. We take care of the bills, our pets and plants and children and friend’s children. We take care of our yards, the laundry, the dishes, our cars.
What about ourselves?
Where do you rank on your to-do list and people to take care of? If you’re anything like me, you probably fall pretty far to the bottom, if you even make the list in the first place.
What happened when I didn’t take care of myself…
I found myself burnt out, exhausted and at my wits end with everything; my job, the people around me, everything about my life. I was bitter and resentful and unhappy. I felt like everyone was taking and no one was giving. I quit my job, stopped spending time with people and allowed that bitterness to swallow me.
Life spun around for a while but then I slowly began to remember the things I loved; writing, reading, hanging out at coffee shops, watching stand-up comedy. I started to spend more and more time doing things that fed my spirit and made me feel good, that made me happy.
As I began to focus on taking care of myself…
I became a nicer person. I had more patience with people. I was kind. I smiled. It was easier to let go of things because I was less attached to other people’s negativity and expectations of me. I wasn’t drained when someone needed something from me, I was happy to help. It became easier to be about other people without becoming resentful, because I found happiness within myself, not in them or anything they could do for me. I become a lot more grateful when other people did things for me because I wasn’t expecting it.
I realized that if I wanted to maintain this happy, joyful version of myself, I couldn’t slip back into old habits, letting myself drop to the bottom of my priority list.
I was going to have to find a way to make peace with the self-loathing guilt I harbored and choose to be important.
This outward action of self-care started an inward journey of self-worth. The more I value myself, the more I value other people. And it happens in a very authentic, really honest way. The more I can be mindful and kind to myself, the easier it becomes to treat others that way, too.
So how do I do it?
I try to carve out a little time each day to take care of myself, knowing that there are no excuses and that no one else is going to do it for me. And more importantly, remembering that everyone around me will benefit from it. It always results in me being the very best version of myself.
Give it a try…
Do something for yourself today. Have a dance party of one. Find a quiet space and just breathe. Get outside. Go for a walk. Whatever makes you happy.
Need ideas for Self-Care in real life? Check these out:
- 31 Self-Care Ideas (my go-to list!)
- How to Pull Yourself Out of a Bad Mood
- 5 Morning Routine Essentials
- 4 Ways to Change Your Perspective (and your life!)
- 15 Self-Care Tips for the Winter Blues
Take good care of yourself, friends. You are so valuable and you are so worth it.